“I woke up. I realized I had changed. And so had the world”It is when you stop moving along with the crowd and realize that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. A sudden feeling of insecurity creeps in. You wonder, where you will be in a year or two and then suddenly get scared because you barely know where you are right now.
You start realizing that people are selfish. Maybe those friends, that you thought you were so close to, aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met in your life and that the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing this fact too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere. In fact, they are just as confused as you are.
You look at your job. It's not even close to what you thought you would be doing. Maybe you are looking for a job and realize that you are going to have to start right at the bottom. Such a thought scares you.
Your opinions have strengthened. You look at what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because now you realize that there are certain limitations in your life. You are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the very next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone, scared and confused. Suddenly, 'change' is an enemy. You try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved so much could do such a thing to you. Sometimes you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough whom you want to get to know better. Maybe you love someone. Maybe you love someone else too and can't figure out why you're doing this. From the inside, you know that you aren't a bad person after all. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like a moron starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over again and talk with your friends about the same topics because you seem to have become indecisive. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great...right now, you'd just like to be a contender!
I'm sure that every soul who reads this will relate to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. It's a state of confusion and chaos.
Call it the "Quarter-Life Crisis".
[Excerpt from the mail archives]
You start realizing that people are selfish. Maybe those friends, that you thought you were so close to, aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met in your life and that the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing this fact too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere. In fact, they are just as confused as you are.
You look at your job. It's not even close to what you thought you would be doing. Maybe you are looking for a job and realize that you are going to have to start right at the bottom. Such a thought scares you.
Your opinions have strengthened. You look at what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because now you realize that there are certain limitations in your life. You are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the very next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone, scared and confused. Suddenly, 'change' is an enemy. You try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved so much could do such a thing to you. Sometimes you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough whom you want to get to know better. Maybe you love someone. Maybe you love someone else too and can't figure out why you're doing this. From the inside, you know that you aren't a bad person after all. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like a moron starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over again and talk with your friends about the same topics because you seem to have become indecisive. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great...right now, you'd just like to be a contender!
I'm sure that every soul who reads this will relate to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. It's a state of confusion and chaos.
Call it the "Quarter-Life Crisis".
[Excerpt from the mail archives]
1 comment:
Best of our times and worst of our times ... I like that ...
- Just another 'QLC'er
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